Posted in Art & Music

chill kpop songs 2022

New 2022 releases in Kpop are saturated with hip-hop, rap and upbeat music. But there are times when you just want to sit back and relax.

Here’s a sweet sample of music that you can play or save to your playlist.

Blue Flame – by Le Sserafim
If you leave me – Seventeen
Sour grapes – Le Sserafim
Love countdown – Nayeon of Twice
Darari – Treasure

This was released last year but highly reco for chill time…

Alcohol free – Twice
World – Seventeen
Rose – Miyeon
Beautiful monster – Stayc
cover: Off my face(Justin Bieber) – Heeseung of Enhypen

Posted in Catholic faith, Our Mother of Perpetual Help, prayer

Prayer for home to Our Mother of Perpetual Help

Sharing this prayer I’ve learned from Redemptorist church when I was young while joining Nanay (grandma) to her Wednesday devotions. Been praying this ever since.

Our Mother of Perpetual Help

we salute thee as the chosen queen of our home

we beseech thee by thy tender motherly love

to preserve its inmates from destructive fires and earthquakes,

from thieves, accidents and calamities

and above all from sudden and unprovided death,

O Mother of Perpetual Help

be ever the queen of our home,

Amen.

Posted in kdrama

EP 8 – Extraordinary Attorney Woo

Spoiler Alert: this post may contain dialogue or scenes from Extraordinary Attorney Woo episode 8.


This is such a beautiful episode and so it’s a must to share this in a separate post. Quoting the conversation and exchanges betweem the mom – Attorney Tae Sumi and daughter Attorney Young-woo and other touching dialogues. I’ll be focusing on the mushy side of relationships and family.

Source: IMDb

The case they are handling is a direct continuation of episode 7 – tale of Sodeok-dong. She discovered that her real mother is the famous and CEO of Taesan law firm. The touching revelation of how her dad made sacrifices and gave up his future for his daughter – Attorney Young-woo. We all adore Gwangho-shi as a selfless parent who can give up everything for his child.

Do you not recognize me?

– Young-woo

I feel sad for attorney Young-woo and her dad… We can’t deny the fact there are some parents like that, prioritizing herself before the child. It can be a true representation and bitter reality of homes where children are compromised.

I’m Woo Gwang-ho’s daughter…


Was reminded of a story about a woman who was already married but instead of leaving her child to the husband, she brought the child and escaped with another man. That woman was also highly ambitious like Tae Sumi, but poor guy wasn’t enough for her.

I wanted leave Hanbada. But recently, I found out who you are. So I don’t think I can work here (Taesan law firm).

– Young-Woo

In this episode you’ll see attorney Woo’s emotional side when she confronted her mom who abandoned her.

I was trying to leave Hanbada to be independent of my father and be a real adult.

But I can’t leave my dad, just to join my mother’s firm.

– Young-woo

The acting in this encounter is superb, paying attention to both Tae Su-mi and Attorney Woo’s. With opposite reactions as Young-woo has ASD while the mom is in shock.

Especially not when my mother gave birth to me but abandoned me. And doesn’t recognized me at all.

Even now.

Thank you for inviting me to join in Taesan, but I’m going to continue to work in Hanbada.

And I will stay by my father’s side.

– Young-woo

Maybe we can try to place ourselves in Tae Su-mi’s position, yes she has her reasons. But I was hoping she could at least try to reach out to her…

Do you resent me for what I’ve done?

– Tae Sumi

It was nice when we looked at the tree together on top of the hill in Sodeok-dong. I wanted to meet you at least once.

It was nice to meet you…

– Young-woo

Nothing is more heartwrenching. I mean it, nothing!!! Who else cried a bucket in this episode? (TT) Background music is equally sentimental and poignant. This episode ended with the scene from the tree in Sodoek-dong’s hill.

I can’t imagine how Young-woo must have felt to learn that the woman she was so fascinated with is actually her mother, but kudos to her for handling the situation maturely. This shows how well her dad raised her, full of love and sacrifices. Despite the mother’s absence and her disability, she turned out okay and very mature.


Posted in life, motivational

Life 101: How to not to be toxic

Studying Psychology shows you a myriad of complicated terms, endless name of disorders, personality types, etc. But let’s be practical here, everywhere you go there’s always a “toxic” person. They’re impossible to avoid, can give you negative feelings and worse affect your mental health.

But do you know that Toxic behavior is something that can manifest in us all?

We all have bad days but it is important to be aware of our actions and how they affect the people around us. “Self-awareness” – according to my professor and the author of best selling book Permission to feelMarc Brackett, is the start of becoming an Emotional Scientist.


First, let us learn how to identify a toxic individual.


Being toxic is never fun to be around, you drive people away and usually encounter conflicts and misunderstandings. Keep in mind that these behaviors don’t happen overnight, it is developed through the years and has underlying causes or triggers like childhood trauma. They are actually unconscious and developed over time as their defense mechanism. Not an excuse though, that’s why we begin by realizing if our behavior is already hurting other people.

Ways not to be toxic.

1. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones

  • it all starts with your mind, your thoughts drive and guide how you behave.
  • In my psychology course by Yale Center of Emotional Intelligence, we are provided with “thought strategies”.
  • Professor Marc Brackett said that our brain is hay wired to think negatively right away, it is our automatic way of thinking. This is not good for the body as it activates our limbic system.
  • Thinking positively takes time and lot of effort.

2. Be actively Grateful

  • When we practice gratitude, our feelings of accomplishment and satisfaction increase, and the feeling of burn-out decreases.
  • Toxic people are unhappy because they tend to look at the past and for them everything in their life is not good enough.
  • Take a few minutes everyday to be actively grateful. This could be anything from your pet, sunshine or good weather, family, or the roof above your head.
  • If you really want not to be toxic, know that acknowledging the good things in your life lets you focus on them and everything else seems brighter and happier.

3. Think before you react

  • build the habit of pausing before reacting.
  • toxic people are highly reactive, they tend to lash out on people around them.
  • this is the best time to practice being a better listener, so instead of reacting try to listen first.
  • being an active listener shows that you care.

4. Let your ego go

  • a toxic person is desperate to maintain a certain image to the point of attacking others, or being defensive and becoming a habitual liar.
  • they believe they’re entitled and people are beneath them.
  • accept that nobody’s perfect and that you’re not always correct.
  • kindness is free and without your ego this is easy.

5. Show accountability

  • this is related to ego, apologizing is like admitting defeat to a toxic person.
  • admitting you’ve made a mistake and taking responsibility makes it feel you’ve failed.
  • if you’re not able to be accountable for your own wrongdoing — if you dig in, and have to maintain your image — this is a big potential problem. For one, it’s a sign of narcissism.
  • it will be a struggle to maintain a real relationship to someone who can never ever accept fault. It makes other people uncomfortable, denies their emotions or needs, and leaves them feeling wronged too.

6. Avoid gossip

  • here comes “marites” or the gossiper
  • it becomes highly toxic when the objective of the story is to destroy other people and talk about their misfortunes.
  • don’t be too quick to judge others and then spread rumor about them.
  • try to know people first, listen, be kind and considerate.

7. Build others up, not test them

  • we all want to be with someone who celebrates with us. They are happy when you’ve achieved something instead of belittling.
  • this is related to gossiping, if we try to pinpoint the mistakes of other people.
  • real strength is when you uplift and motivate others instead of pulling them down.

8. Seek help

  • if you’re unsure about your own behaviour in certain aspects of life, that’s completely fine. It’ll probably best to act on it right away.
  • whether it’s consulting friends, family, a professional (like a therapist), there are ways to learn more about ourselves and help us improve these areas in our life.
  • toxic behavior doesn’t happen accidentally. It’s likely caused by something in your mind like unresolved issues and past trauma.
  • connecting with others is also a way of healing. Strong social ties are linked with happiness, longevity and health.

Reaching this point means you care about yourself as a person and open to growth and maturity. Don’t worry, being toxic is not forever, it’s not permanent.

“when you let go of who you are, you become who you might be.”

– RUMI

Posted in kdrama

Extraordinary Attorney Woo

Peculiar and pasionate

Extraodrinary Attorney Woo – Korean: 이상한 변호사 우영우

This new K-drama is so cute and heartwarming that I thought of writing a review after watching the first episode.

About a genius lawyer who has autism spectrum disorder (ASD) and IQ of 164 hence the title “extraordinary”. Starring Park Eun Bin, Kang Tae Oh and Kang Ki-young, talks about a story of everyday struggles of this extraordinary young lawyer.

This on-going dramedy (drama and comedy) is making network history according to Nielsen Korea, soared to its highest viewership rating yet on its fourth episode. Definitely binge-worthy and I applaude Park Eun Bin for her superb acting as the main role – Attorney Woo. I love every episode so far, it can make you cry, laugh and giggle.

It is also refreshing for me as a Psychology student to watch this beautiful drama portraying a disability in the most charming way possible.

Can’t wait for upcoming episodes,,, ❤

Posted in health, women’s health

my Endo story

It’s been a while since I posted something about endometriosis. I was diagnosed about a decade a go and yes that long!!! but I’ve been suffering with dysmenorrhea since the start of my menstrual age.

Time to time, I get tired sharing my experiences in social media that only a few friends can relate. Sufferers like me can get frustrated and hopeless in finding a definite cure. I’m friends with fellow “endowarrior” and I admire them for passionately posting their journeys in social media.

As it is reported that 1 out of 10 women is affected, more than 11% of women between ages 15-44, and common in women in their 30s to 40s which makes it hard for them to conceive.

– womenshealth.gov

“This is why one of the biggest symptoms of endometriosis is – chronic inflammation.” – Dr. Berg

Endometriosis is a long-term condition and considered to be a chronic illness. One of the most painful and debilitating diseases. Our battle cry – “It is not just a period pain!”

I tried a myriad of herbal supplements and I’ve had various medical procedures, many of which I vaguely remember. Then I came across Doctor Eric Berg and his videos are practical. Sharing his video/s about endometriosis and would probably post more about women’s health again soon…

Hugs to all endowarriors ❤

Posted in kdrama

world of politics in Chief of Staff

My husband watches back to back this drama and D&P. I watch this one with him out of curiosity. Though a little late as this was released last 2019. With casts – Lee Jung Jae, Shin Min ah (my fave), Lee Elijah and so forth and available in Netflix and other streaming sites.

Talks about corruption, abuse, death, etc. I like the characters of Lee Jung Jae as Jang Tae Jun (main role), Assemblyman Lee who fights tirelessly for justice, Kang Sun Yeong (played by Shin Min Ah). This series is intense and has exciting twists, portraying a society with real issues, depicting how world of politics really work.

Being married to a civil servant, I can see my husband in the roles of some characters who remain steadfast and principled through and through.

Anyways… if you want drama with realistic plot then you got it here.

Posted in kdrama, life

My Liberation Notes – subtle but deep

While waiting for the next episodes of Our Blues, got curious about this new Kdrama starring Lee Min-kiKim Ji-wonSon Seok-koo, and Lee El.

thought provoking

To stand out among hundreds of K-drama reviews, I’d like to skip the synopsis or plot of this series. It’s a melodrama full of metaphors, deep thoughts and musings.

Main leads are subtly but deeply connected and attracted to each other. Love that goes beyond physical contact, it’s thought-provoking.

You may find it slow and dragging at first, but as you get to know the three siblings especially Mi Jeong (Kim Ji-Won), her thoughts while commuting in and out of Seoul. These siblings are struggling with their own issues, money, huge debt, work, relationships, etc.

Something good will happen to you today…

Written by ParkHae-young, and directed by Kim Suk-yoon, is relatable on many levels, the camaraderie between the co-workers, the after-work gossip, and the random ranting sessions. This drama connects with your consciousness and desires that you feel part of the story.

Mark 6:50

Yes, I believe we all have that desire to feel loved, or to Mi Jeong – be worshipped.

Posted in life

Our Blues – Down Syndrome story that made us cry

This story deserves a dedicated post.

Latest episode aired this weekend made its highest viewership rating so far. And for me is a beautiful mix of heartwarming and heartbreaking.

Episode’s story is about Lee Young Ok (played by Han Ji Min), boyfriend – Park JungJoon (Kim Woo bin), and the appearance of Lee Young Ok’s twin – Lee Young Hee (Jung Eun Hye).

Lee Young Hee has down syndrome and many viewers were surprised to her appearance that added a beautiful touch to the series. Netizens’ comments after its airing; “I cried when I watched the broadcast then cried again when reading the comments”, Wow, I did cry a lot”, “This one drama makes me feel like watching the documentary ‘This is Life’ several times”, etc.

Of course we all cried!

I have a soft spot for people like Lee Young Hee, plus she is an artist and as an artist myself I was really touched by their story.

The reason why viewers got emotional was that Jung Eun-hye is actually a person who has Down Syndrome. Jung Eun-hye, who plays the role of Young-hee, who dreams of becoming an artist, in the drama, is actually a caricature artist who draws people’s faces.

Get ready to sob and cry all over again with more beautiful stories of this series.

Posted in kdrama

Business Proposal review

Okay, I’m quite late so will just give a quick review on the latest hit Kdrama – Business Proposal. Based on a webtoon of the same title by HaeHwa and illustration by Narak.

One of the best rom-com to date, this is one of my favorites too! The cast is just as wonderful that adds charm and fun to the series 🙂 Starring Ahn Hyo-seop, Kim Sejeong, Kim Minkyu and Seol In-ah. This drama is the complete opposite of last historical series that i watched with Ahn Hyo-seop as Ha-ram in Lovers of the Red Sky.

It tells the story of Shin Ha-ri (Kim Sejeong), a hardworking employee who accepts to go on a blind date in place of her friend (Seol In-ah), but finds out that her date is actually her boss, the president of their company (Ahn Hyo-seop).

You may find the plot a cliche, the usual CEO falling in love to a commoner. But the main leads did a great job, quirky and really funny. Though a little short with only 12 episodes, was hoping for more, no wonder it’s been the most hyped in Netflix since it first aired last April.