Posted in faith, life, motivational, prayer

How to be content with your life

For those who’ve been following me in IG, one chronic side effect of my treatment or symptom management is depression. It can also be brought by endometriosis (and adenomyosis) either way am 😦

We’ve all had this feeling before – sadness, dark cloud above your head, low days, lonelines… I cannot describe this state in the most positive way possible, an overall feeling of doom, zero inspiration and motivation.

Truth is no one could completely grasp one’s feelings and emotional well being. Help starts with you. It takes massive effort yes, but it’s worth the try…

Please remember that – your current state is not forever, this (too) shall pass.

How to be content with your life?

  1. Change your perspective – the easiest way to be content with your life is adjusting your perspective. Instead of being stuck with the past or obsessing over the future, focus on Living in the Present.
  2. Be Grateful for what you have – though our life may be miserable today but try thinking of the things you have and how lucky you are compare to other people. This also includes – to stop comparing yourself with others. As the old saying goes – “the grass is greener on the other side” – the things we don’t have seem better than the things we have. This is the biggest obstacle in achieving happiness. Because there will always be someone who is happier, healthier, richer than you. But why look? If it’s only going to make you more miserable and unhappy.
  3. Appreciate the little things – Every detail in your life counts. We may take for granted this little things because we are too focused on the negative. Daily reflection, write a journal, a walk outside for some fresh air. Making a habit of reflecting will help you think rationally when a problem arises and will keep you from being blind-sided by problems that are lurking in your life.

One thing that really helps me is – FAITH. I can’t imagine myself being in the center of these all without Jesus. To be able to believe in something greater than us is the most effective coping mechanism for people who are suffering.

Yes it’s okay not to feel okay, if you need to cry then do it…

David Spiegel, MD, the medical director of the Center for Integrative Medicine at Stanford University School of Medicine, reminds us that “Happiness is not the absence of sadness.”

Let me share these beautiful songs… Allow Jesus to be with you, to cry with you and feel with you…


Happy are the people who are sad now,

God will come near to help them.

Matthew 5:4 Easy


I will be still and

know You are God.


Posted in life, psychology

What is Gaslighting

In my previous post, we talked about manipulation and sampled the character of Jin Mu from Alchemy of Souls. Fact check, we meet a gaslighter in real life sometimes unaware of it, and so before falling to their trap let me show you ways to spot a gaslighter.

Gaslighting is a colloquialism, loosely defined as making someone question their own reality. The term derives from the title of the 1944 film – Gaslight. The term may also be used to describe a person (a “gaslighter”) who presents a false narrative to another group or person, thereby leading them to doubt their perceptions and become misled, disoriented or distressed.

Wikipedia

Gaslighting is a favorite tool of a toxic person. It is a form of abuse and psychological control. A gaslighter will start with small lies, eventually misinformation increases overtime. Anyone can be a victim of a gaslighting and the most effective gaslighter is the hardest to detect.

Gaslighting can appear in various ways. Here are examples or techniques they use (from Medical News Today);

  • Countering: This is when someone questions a person’s memory or recall. They may say, “Are you sure about that? You have a bad memory,” or “I think you are just forgetful.”
  • Withholding: Pretending they do not understand the conversation, or refusing to listen, to make a person doubt themselves. For example, they might say, “Now you are just confusing me,” or “I do not know what you are talking about.”
  • Trivializing: This occurs when a person belittles or disregards how someone else feels. They may accuse them of being “too sensitive” or overreacting in response to valid and reasonable concerns.
  • Denial: Refusing to take responsibility for their actions. They may do this by pretending to forget what happened, saying they did not do it, or blaming their behavior on someone else.
  • Diverting: With this technique, a person changes the focus of a discussion by questioning the other person’s credibility. A great tactic and often use by personalities to divert the attention from them.
  • Stereotyping: A person may intentionally use negative stereotypes about someone’s gender, race, ethnicity, sexuality, nationality, or age to gaslight them. For example, they may say that no one will believe a woman if she reports abuse.

From the examples listed, you maybe able to detect a gaslighter. As a disclaimer, this behavior becomes toxic based on intentions. And we may accidentally use the phrases sampled above without really intending to gaslight someone. It’s all in the intention or motives of a person.

It is different from Manipulation though. Manipulation is a key part of gaslighting, it’s a common tactic. Can be used in marketing strategies, politics, institutions, etc. But gaslighter, they are very rare and much more toxic.


Gaslighting can be psychologically devastating. According to Psychology Today, it violates trust, upends a person’s view that people are generally good, and can make them suspicious of everyone who is close to them. Falling victim to a gaslighter also erodes a person’s trust in themselves and may make a victim never want to be part of a relationship again.

There are ways to protect yourself from this form of abuse. First to simply gather evidence, write journals, take photos, etc. and use them as your proof. You may also talk to someone trustworthy and if needed, leave that toxic relationship.

Posted in Family health, health

Sunscreen ingredients to avoid

It is a must for endowarriors to take time and read every label both in food and skincare. And I think it’s also pertinent for healthy individuals to read labels as there are many chemicals that can cause diseases like cancer and cell damage.

Unfortunately, majority of sunscreens on the market today are more harmful than beneficial according to Huffpost. Sunscreens are designed to decrease your risk of skin cancer and allow you to enjoy the sun without worry. Modern day sunscreens have ingredients that may increase your risk of cancer and disrupt the functioning of your hormones.

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The chemical oxybenzone permeates the skin, enters the bloodstream and imitates estrogen in the body. It can activate allergic reactions along with another harmful ingredient – retinyl palmitate.

Chemical suncreens that are potentially harmful to our health (in order of toxicity from highest to lowest);

  • benzene
  • oxybenzone
  • octinoxate
  • homosalate
  • octisalate
  • octocrylene
  • avobenzone

News of famous brands recalling their sunscreen were in several sites recently. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention routinely detects oxybenzone in more than 96 percent of the American population. Study participants who reported using sunscreen have higher oxybenzone exposures (Zamoiski 2015).

Experst suggest to avoid sunscreens with chemicals mentioned above and prefer mineral sunscreens as it is said to be safer. Mineral or Physical sunscreens like titanium dioxide and iron oxide are the ingredients to look for in a good sunscreen.

Sharing the sunscreen products I have been using lately, still it’s to your discretion to be mindful of these carcinogenic warnings. Please know that this post is not a paid ad. These products use physical or mineral sunscreen thus avoiding exposure to carcinogenic chemicals like benzene.

  • Axis-Y Complete No-stress Physical Sunscreen SPF-50+ Pa++++
  • Frudia Green Cooling Sun gel
  • Dr. G Green Mild Sun SPF50+PA++++

Stay safe and healthy ❤

Posted in health, natural medicine

Allergic rhinitis

Currently writing this while having an attack, and yes you may conclude that I’m immune to this overly sensitive nose of mine.

Not to sound pathetic, but I have been suffering from allergic rhinitis since time immemorial & somehow I got used to it. From dust to mold, even a mere lack of sleep can make me sick. Then came endometriosis, adenomyosis and so forth. I had a couple of doses of GnRH from 2020 and since then I’ve noticed changes in my overall health. My allergies became more severe and it’s so frustrating. Stomach becomes painful (aside from my poor nose) from endless sneezing. Consuming a box of kleenex in one sitting.

So I had to find ways, studied health courses online, continuously hunting for definite cure or miracle for these health issues. The following are remedies, tips and facts that may help your condition.

  • Allergic rhinitis, often called hay fever, is a common condition that causes symptoms such as sneezing, stuffy nose, runny nose, watery eyes and itching of the nose, eyes or the roof of the mouth.
  • Allergic rhinitis is an allergic reaction to tiny particles in the air called allergens. When you breathe in allergens through your nose or mouth, your body reacts by releasing a natural chemical called histamine.
  • Several indoor and outdoor allergens cause hay fever. Common causes include dust mites, mold, pet dander and pollen from trees and plants.
  • You can have allergic rhinitis any season or all year round (ditto!).
  • It is inherited.
Natural ways to treat allergies – Dr. Berg

It’s difficult (impossible) to completely avoid potential allergens, but you can take steps to reduce exposure to a particular allergen you know or suspect is triggering your allergic rhinitis. This will help improve your symptoms. And if you can’t take it anymore, there are antihistamine medications that will help – just ask your doctor for prescription. My go-to medications are cetirizine, levocetirizine (antihistamines).

Posted in health, women’s health

my Endo story

It’s been a while since I posted something about endometriosis. I was diagnosed about a decade a go and yes that long!!! but I’ve been suffering with dysmenorrhea since the start of my menstrual age.

Time to time, I get tired sharing my experiences in social media that only a few friends can relate. Sufferers like me can get frustrated and hopeless in finding a definite cure. I’m friends with fellow “endowarrior” and I admire them for passionately posting their journeys in social media.

As it is reported that 1 out of 10 women is affected, more than 11% of women between ages 15-44, and common in women in their 30s to 40s which makes it hard for them to conceive.

– womenshealth.gov

“This is why one of the biggest symptoms of endometriosis is – chronic inflammation.” – Dr. Berg

Endometriosis is a long-term condition and considered to be a chronic illness. One of the most painful and debilitating diseases. Our battle cry – “It is not just a period pain!”

I tried a myriad of herbal supplements and I’ve had various medical procedures, many of which I vaguely remember. Then I came across Doctor Eric Berg and his videos are practical. Sharing his video/s about endometriosis and would probably post more about women’s health again soon…

Hugs to all endowarriors ❤

Posted in life

Dr. Eric Berg

This is short and sweet, my life has changed for the (much) better because of Doctor Berg. Hoping you can find his videos helpful as well, so here’s the link to his channel.

Posted in health, natural medicine

Turmeric and Ginger

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For those who have been following me since day 1, I have talked about endometriosis a couple of times in the blog. A topic so personal and is never easy for me to open up. After my laparoscopy which was both a diagnostic procedure and an excision, I was told that I have endometriosis 😦

Since then I have been in endless hunt for herbal medicines, homeopathic and natural supplements. Supplement meaning not to replace any prescribed medicine or therapy.

Two distinct ingredients came up – turmeric and ginger.

Interestingly, both have been used for centuries to treat a variety of ailments, ranging from migraines to chronic inflammation and fatigue.

Turmeric & Ginger – Healthline

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From an article by PubMed, turmeric is a plant in the ginger family. Native to Southeast Asia primarily in India. Historically, turmeric was used in Ayurveda and other traditional Indian medical systems, as well as Eastern Asian medical systems such as traditional Chinese medicine. In India, it was traditionally used for disorders of the skin, upper respiratory tract, joints, and digestive system.

It is believed that turmeric is an anti-inflammatory, promoted to be a dietary supplement for various conditions listed below;

  • arthritis
  • chronic inflammation
  • digestive disorders
  • respiratory infections
  • allergies
  • liver disease
  • depression

and even with corona virus, we have heard turmeric’s benefits resurfacing and becoming popular.

The use of natural or alternative medicines has increased rapidly over the years. Here in Cebu particularly, we have a variety of herbal supplements in the local market. Mostly in capsule or tea formula. I have taken quite a few but in my opinion, simple ingredients from our pantry like turmeric and ginger is the most underrated, cheap and readily available ingredients we can start consuming for better health.

Ginger contains many bioactive nutrients from its pungent and spicy property. The primary pungent ingredient that is believed to exert a variety of remarkable pharmacological and physiological activities.

Like turmeric, ginger has several health benefits as follows;

  • immune booster
  • against respiratory tract infections
  • relief from nausea & vomiting
  • antioxidant
  • anti-cancer
  • anti-inflammatory
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Posted in health, health & fitness

Vitamin C & Health

Vitamin C, or technically L-ascorbic acid, is an essential water soluble vitamin known to exhibit antioxidant properties.

It is the most famous of all vitamins and was discovered in 1932 when scurvy killed 2 million sailors between year 1500-1800. Unlike most animals, humans are unable to synthesize vitamin C so it is considered to be an essential nutrient.

Roles of Vitamin C

  • protects cells and keep them healthy
  • biosynthesis of collagen, l-carnitine and certain neurotransmitters
  • involves in protein metabolism
  • wound healing
  • powerful antioxidant
  • promotes iron absorption

Benefits

  • boosts immunity
  • neutralize free radicals
  • help manage high blood pressure
  • lower risk of myocardial infarction, stroke, cardiovascular diseases, chronic diseases
  • reduced risk of gastric cancer and other cancers
  • may reduce blood uric acid levels and help prevent gout attacks
  • prevents cataract
  • protects memory and thinking
  • prevents plaque formation

Deficiency

  • bone pain
  • fatigue
  • lethargy
  • easy bruising
  • anemia
  • scurvy
  • gum disease
  • mood changes
  • general malaise

Humans depend on external or dietary sources of vitamin C to cover requirements. The following is the recommended daily allowance of vitamin C.

AgeMaleFemalePregnancyLactation
0–6 months40 mg*40 mg*
7–12 months50 mg*50 mg*
1–3 years15 mg15 mg
4–8 years25 mg25 mg
9–13 years45 mg45 mg
14–18 years75 mg65 mg80 mg115 mg
19+ years90 mg75 mg85 mg120 mg
SmokersIndividuals who smoke require 35 mg/day
more vitamin C than nonsmokers.
https://ods.od.nih.gov/factsheets/VitaminC-HealthProfessional/

* Adequate Intake (AI)

Due to its function as an antioxidant and its role in immune function, vitamin C has been promoted as a means to help prevent and/or treat numerous health conditions. Supplements are most common in the form of ascorbic acid. which has equivalent bioavailability to that of naturally occurring ascorbic acid in foods, such as orange juice and broccoli. Other forms of vitamin C supplements include sodium ascorbate; calcium ascorbate; other mineral ascorbates; ascorbic acid with bioflavonoids.

You should be able to get all the vitamin C you need by eating a well balanced diet. But due to lifestyle and busy schedule and vitamin c being water soluble meaning heat sensitive -you may not meet the daily requirement and opt for supplements. Please keep in mind the dosage and talk to a health professional for further advice.


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Posted in Family health, health, health & fitness

Why do you need B-Vitamins?

B-Vitamins are water soluble vitamins.

https://www.hsph.harvard.edu/nutritionsource/vitamins/vitamin-b/

B-Vitamins or B Complex are essential vitamins that contribute to your overall health and well-being. There are eight B Vitamins – B1 (thiamin), B2 (riboflavin), B3 (niacin), B5 (pantothenic acid), B6 (pyroxidine), B9 (Folate), B12 (cobalamin).

These eight micronutrients play vital roles in many organs and bodily systems. They have dual functions – work together and/or carry out individual works in the body.

  • essential in synthesis of neurotransmitters such as acetylcholine, serotonin & dopamine
  • cellular health
  • blood cell formation
  • converts fats to glucose
  • promote energy levels
  • good eyesight
  • brain function
  • nerve conduction
  • fats and hormone synthesis
  • cardiovascular health
  • muscle tone

In women

B vitamins are essentially important for pregnant and breastfeeding women. Particularly Folic Acid – that aids in fetal development and prevent birth defects.

Folic acid fortification is one of the most successful public health initiatives. With 19-55% decreased in neural tube defects.

And for expectant mothers, B vitamins may boost energy levels, ease nausea, and lower the risk of developing preeclampsia.

In men

B vitamins help in testosterone levels in men that decrease with age. Helps in muscles and overall energy level.

In vegetarians/vegans

American Dietetic Association recommends Vitamin B12 in particular. Since Vitamin B12 is mainly found in animal products, fish, meat and poultry.

How much B vitamins do you need?

For women, the recommended daily intake is:

For men, the recommended daily intake is:

One cannot single out which B vitamin is the best because each has its own unique function and purpose. Depending on our body condition and pre-existing illness or nutritional levels, we may or may not be able to meet the daily requirements of B vitamins.

Best to talk to your trusted doctor, dietitian or health care provider.

Posted in corona virus, covid 19, health

Dirtiest Things You Touch

Trigger Alert!

Dedicated to all germaphobes and to make our Covid19-War strong!

Here are the worst and dirtiest things you touch everyday.

woman using smartphone in bed
Cellphone

It goes with you everywhere – even in the bathroom. It can be 10x dirtier than your toilet seat. In fact, it can be contaminated with fecal matter. Gross! So please use disinfecting wipes or spray alcohol in a clean towel and wipe it!

 

closeup photo of person holding panasonic remote control in front of turned on smart television
Remote Control

 

Obvious, remote control is being touched more than 3x a day. And when not in used it’s either on the floor or stuck in between the sofa cushions – a perfect home for bacteria and viruses to grow.

 

person holding black card holder
Purse / Money

Just like cellphone, our purse is a harbor for very tiny microbes. That includes our credit cards, money and coins.

 

people inside a bus wearing masks
Face Mask

There’s a valid reason why mask is supposedly disposable. But due to scarcity and high demand, we need to use it over and over again. Pathogens like bacteria and viruses can live on cloth fabric for longer than one may think — up to 8-12 hours. So part of wearing a mask is washing and using it properly.

 

cheerful ethnic man using ticketing machine at subway station
ATM

People from everywhere and anywhere touch the buttons on the cash machine. It would be wise to wash your hands or sanitize after touching one.

 

wooden hanger with towels and natural bathroom tools
Towel & Dish Sponge

It’s self explanatory. From towels to dish sponge, it might be the dirtiest thing in the house. It is constantly wet and absorbent.

 

semi open white wooden door
Door Handles

When we open the door, we turn the handle with dirty hands.

 

silver microwave oven on white wooden cabinet
Buttons & Counter

Including kitchen sinks, counter, refrigerator doors and buttons, they are all covered with bacteria.

More nasty areas or things are enlisted in the pictograph below. Make sure to clean them more than once daily. During these pandemic days, we are more obsessed in staying away from dangerous germs. Hope this helps…

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Stay Safe!