Today, I felt the need to post something about – confidence or self esteem. Many of us had or have low self-esteem. It’s deeply rooted from painful childhood experiences, neglect, abuse, illness/debilitation, painful life events such as losing loved ones or a job, divorce, and the most common is discrimination.
As a daughter, grandchild, mother, sister and friend, my dream is to empower people most especially women and young ones and help them boost their self confidence. Yes it’s not easy, I know. I’ve seen enough death in my family, my granddad who was like a father to me died in a car accident when I was very young, sudden passing of my younger brother then my father. And to add discrimination and scrutiny on the side. The negative early events later on become contributors to Low Self Esteem.
I’m no expert but I’m talking based on experience. It’s never too late to believe, to stand up and it all starts with forgiveness. To let go of these thoughts, forgive yourself and always remember that there’s always another chance. New hope.
Think positive. Instead of saying, “I’m a loser” or “no one really likes me” why don’t you talk to yourself and be your first and only effective motivator and coach – “You can do this!”
Positivity leads to positive outcomes.
Smile, laugh and surround yourself with happy and positive people. You’ll feel better as go through the process. They say faking confidence can help, and that’s true. I’ve tried that many times, put your chin up, dress up, use accessories or wear makeup just to elevate self confidence.
When you look better, you will feel better.
And it may take time and effort. But trust me, I’ve been there and it will all be worth it…
with much love,
As 2016 comes to a close, I take a quick look back on the highlights of this year. The highs and lows, good, bad and the worst times. I’ve had it all this 2016. The most difficult was the sudden passing of my brother. Grief and pain was so acute that I prayed the hardest.
Each time I’m being told that I’m a super woman, no. I’m a woman, not really super, nothing great. But I have One Great God, that is Super. With Him I can be anything. And so with full of hope and faith, I know 2017 will be a much better year for us all. I’m grateful for a January 1 filled with dreams and positive emotions. Cheers to a new and exciting year!
Happy New Year!
Dearest Baby girl,
Today is a very special day not just for you but also for me. On this day, I was blessed with a very beautiful baby. You may sometimes tease me when I get sappy, but what I’m feeling as your mom is best expressed with tears in my eyes for it is the finest feeling in the world. I’m so proud of you, maybe you already know that. And I want to be with you and see you in every milestone, every step, every dream you want to achieve. I will be here no matter what, I will be here as your confidant, as your art-buddy, as your adviser, as your mentor or math tutor, most especially I will be here as your mom – always and forever… I will give you all the love in the world, all the love I can give simply because you deserve it. You are such a wonderful being, a little timid, sensitive, compassionate, smart and an artist by heart. I would do everything I could so you can have a better life, better that what I had. The material is of least importance as we pass unto you the values and tradition we have received from our parents. These will guide you as go through life particularly on tough times. Always remember that God gives favor to those who love Him, believe and ask with your heart, God can hear you… just like when God heard me and gave me you…
I love you,
People are often unreasonable and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat on you.
Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.
Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway.
- Mother Teresa
In our lifetime, we all experience pain, sufferings and sorrow. It used to give me a bitter outlook of the world that’s filled with heartaches. Both my partner and I encountered perfidious relationships from the past so when we met it was quite challenging. It was more hurtful for him because it involved his family. You will not know the exact meaning of pain until you’re cheated by someone you loved. And I believe it is the greatest tragedy of mankind.
People doubt, deceive, forget and are unkind…
There will always be a few, who would disagree and dislike. I don’t need to recount the myriad times I was judged and criticized, maybe all these are part of my “purification” I guess.
Having gone through a lot, lest we didn’t know God was there. He is always there… Until present day that I realized, all I need to do, all these time, I just need to talk to Him. to surrender,
“Lord… I do not trust my weakness, I can’t bear this pain, I can’t do this alone, I need You and I trust You… Your love for me is greater than anything else so I lift all these up to You…”
and it is only Him, who can judge, who can deliver, and can help us.
I’m glad I didn’t end up being bitter after all, there’s always a hint of hope inside of me. Perhaps, that is God’s grace over me…
When I lost my only brother this year, it was an awakening and it hurt so much because of a few regrets, I felt I could have done something before he died. The guilt being the eldest and most able, forgiveness was not easy. As I thought I will not be able to recover, but I did. One of the countless blessings God has given me… I was healed, forgiven, heard and loved…
He was on his 20’s when my younger brother passed away last February of 2016. It was so sudden that made me re-think of life and our varying purposes. Healing took awhile, getting strength from my family, from my daughter… I realized it is much difficult to write down our feelings when we are lamenting. The intensity of emotions cannot simply be put into words. Tears flow incessantly as my heart was subjected to pains of loss, confusion and sadness.
And so I can write again, by God’s grace, me and my family gradually began moving on.
I’m sharing these quotes about life and journey. May this be helpful to all of you, especially the ones mourning and downhearted…
To get through the hardest journey,
we need to take only one step at a time,
but we must keep on stepping..
The life of a man is a journey;
a journey that must be traveled,
however bad the roads or accommodation.
On life’s journey
faith is nourishment,
virtuous deeds are a shelter
wisdom is the light by day
and right mindfulness is the protection by night.
If a man lives a pure life,
nothing can destroy him.
I’m deeply reminded that our life’s journey is a gift,
not a given. And that we can never truly know
how long the journey will last.
All we can do is decide how it unfolds.
The beautiful journey of today
can only begin when we learn
to let go of yesterday…
Dr. S. Maraboli
I attended a funeral mass recently of our dear tita Ester, reminding me once again how vague and short life is. It was solemn and poignant.There were about 12 priests who celebrated the mass including Bishop Palma. And so family members, one by one said their eulogies, and as expected tears were flowing incessantly especially from an emotional one like me. I was inspired by her stories, she lived a life of servitude. Somehow, I saw myself at her, being a devotee of Mama Mary and rosary crusader. I thought, in this lifetime I should be doing everything I can to please God because we are given only one opportunity to use all that He has gifted us.
This is something to keep in mind…
“Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might, for in the grave, there is neither working nor planning, nor knowledge nor wisdom.”