Today, I felt the need to post something about – confidence or self esteem. Many of us had or have low self-esteem. It’s deeply rooted from painful childhood experiences, neglect, abuse, illness/debilitation, painful life events such as losing loved ones or a job, divorce, and the most common is discrimination.
As a daughter, grandchild, mother, sister and friend, my dream is to empower people most especially women and young ones and help them boost their self confidence. Yes it’s not easy, I know. I’ve seen enough death in my family, my granddad who was like a father to me died in a car accident when I was very young, sudden passing of my younger brother then my father. And to add discrimination and scrutiny on the side. The negative early events later on become contributors to Low Self Esteem.
I’m no expert but I’m talking based on experience. It’s never too late to believe, to stand up and it all starts with forgiveness. To let go of these thoughts, forgive yourself and always remember that there’s always another chance. New hope.
Think positive. Instead of saying, “I’m a loser” or “no one really likes me” why don’t you talk to yourself and be your first and only effective motivator and coach – “You can do this!”
Positivity leads to positive outcomes.
Smile, laugh and surround yourself with happy and positive people. You’ll feel better as go through the process. They say faking confidence can help, and that’s true. I’ve tried that many times, put your chin up, dress up, use accessories or wear makeup just to elevate self confidence.
When you look better, you will feel better.
And it may take time and effort. But trust me, I’ve been there and it will all be worth it…
with much love,
As 2016 comes to a close, I take a quick look back on the highlights of this year. The highs and lows, good, bad and the worst times. I’ve had it all this 2016. The most difficult was the sudden passing of my brother. Grief and pain was so acute that I prayed the hardest.
Each time I’m being told that I’m a super woman, no. I’m a woman, not really super, nothing great. But I have One Great God, that is Super. With Him I can be anything. And so with full of hope and faith, I know 2017 will be a much better year for us all. I’m grateful for a January 1 filled with dreams and positive emotions. Cheers to a new and exciting year!
Happy New Year!
People are often unreasonable and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat on you.
Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.
Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway.
- Mother Teresa
In our lifetime, we all experience pain, sufferings and sorrow. It used to give me a bitter outlook of the world that’s filled with heartaches. Both my partner and I encountered perfidious relationships from the past so when we met it was quite challenging. It was more hurtful for him because it involved his family. You will not know the exact meaning of pain until you’re cheated by someone you loved. And I believe it is the greatest tragedy of mankind.
People doubt, deceive, forget and are unkind…
There will always be a few, who would disagree and dislike. I don’t need to recount the myriad times I was judged and criticized, maybe all these are part of my “purification” I guess.
Having gone through a lot, lest we didn’t know God was there. He is always there… Until present day that I realized, all I need to do, all these time, I just need to talk to Him. to surrender,
“Lord… I do not trust my weakness, I can’t bear this pain, I can’t do this alone, I need You and I trust You… Your love for me is greater than anything else so I lift all these up to You…”
and it is only Him, who can judge, who can deliver, and can help us.
I’m glad I didn’t end up being bitter after all, there’s always a hint of hope inside of me. Perhaps, that is God’s grace over me…
When I lost my only brother this year, it was an awakening and it hurt so much because of a few regrets, I felt I could have done something before he died. The guilt being the eldest and most able, forgiveness was not easy. As I thought I will not be able to recover, but I did. One of the countless blessings God has given me… I was healed, forgiven, heard and loved…
I’m feeling more motivated lately, by inspiring success stories from graduates and board passers especially the ones who come from humble beginnings. I can relate entirely with Cinderella like stories. I wasn’t born with a silver spoon either. Everything required hard work and seeing my grandmother who worked from day to night to support me was one of the hurdles I had to face. After my beloved grandfather died who was very close to me, other relative/s moved in & turned out to be a little hostile. Quite a resemblance which even my daughter remarked, “now I know why you like Cinderella mommy.” Life back then was bleak and most people doubted and looked down on me.
I was focused while doing what I love – joining art/acting classes for free (as a scholar) then dancing in our Pas des tous & Cheerleading school clubs. Then, I was told that I will never make it, “you will never go to the ball” – something like that, the more I fixed my eyes on achieving my dreams. Like fairytales there will always be villains and they are destined to put us down. But they also serve as our motivation. Yes villains are mean and rude but i thought who are they to stop me.
I may be hurt, but I’m determined, as they say the best revenge is massive success. while my best weapon is praying. I’m sharing a snippet of my story, we all have our struggles in life, mine wasn’t that exceptional. We are defined by how we get up each time we fall. And always believing that there’s a pot of gold in the end of the rainbow. I hope this may brought inspiration to some.
Trust and Believe.