Posted in life, motivational

What it means to be loyal

If there’s one substantial quality to have in our relationships – with our loved ones, our family, friends, partners, colleagues, etc. – it could be loyalty. All relationships even between sellers and customers are based on our ability to be loyal.


Loyalty, in general use, is a devotion and faithfulness to a nation, cause, philosophycountry, group, or person. Philosophers disagree on what can be an object of loyalty, as some argue that loyalty is strictly interpersonal and only another human being can be the object of loyalty.

– Wikipedia

We may have different perceptions of loyalty but there are common characteristics that indicate loyalty. It is the most valued virtue in all relationships and encompasses the following traits.

Character Traits of Loyalty

  • a loyal person fulfills promises
  • a loyal person is supportive
  • a loyal person stands by you and for you
  • a loyal person values honesty
  • a loyal person is empathic
  • a loyal person is reliable
  • a loyal person is committed and dedicated


We all want the warmth and security that a loyal relationship brings. We like to be with people who are more likely to be faithful to us. And it is one of the basic necessity according to Maslow’s Heirarchy of Needs – Belongingness and Love Needs.

But remember not to expect other people the exact values we possess. We are all unique and different in personality traits, character, priorities, etc. One can cheat or be faithful to someone forever.

Loyalty is a value that is necessary for a lasting and meaningful relationships.

Posted in faith, motivational

Must read bible verses when you’re faced with criticisms

I’ve faced criticisms my entire life. Prior to taking Psychology, I’m already curious about dealing with people – particularly “difficult” people.

But beyond and above scientific knowledge and strategies is the grace and word of God.

Let me share this with you, this has helped me a lot…

Caring for what others think of you stops us from doing God’s will. You’ll be distracted, occupied and worst be frozen in fear.

I want to also remind you that there are mean people in this world. (a.k.a. haters) Don’t allow people to hurt you with negative words toward you. Their words are irrelevant. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. God thinks good thoughts about you so think good thoughts about yourself as well.

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Psalm 139:14 NIV

For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. 2 Timothy 1:7 ESV

Do not judge or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Matthew 7:1-2 NIV

It is dangerous to be concerned with what others think of you, but if you trust the Lord, you are safe. Proverbs 29:25

The Lord does not see as mortals see; they look on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”

1 Samuel 16:7
Posted in faith, motivational

Motivational Quotes You Need

When your day is overwhelming, troubled, exhausting and nearly lost for words…

Here are some inspiring, motivating quotes to lift your spirits up.

A diamond is a chunk of coal that did well under pressure.
You can’t change the past nor predict the future. So it’s better to focus on today.
You always pass failure on your way to success.

🙂

Posted in faith, motivational, prayer, prayers

Why bad things happen to good people

I finished reading a book – “When Bad things happen to Good People.”(1)

In our lifetime, we experience betrayal even by the ones closest to us. After trusting them, believing them… In the end, their masks fall off & leave. Other “good people” experience physically pain, suffering with incurable afflictions. 

It begs the question – Why bad things happen to good people? 

One of my favorite author – C.S. Lewis said, “God uses pain to get our attention.” 

“We can ignore even pleasure. But pain insists upon being attended to. God whispers to us in pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pains..” (2)

And so we suppose, if God really uses pain to speak to us, in order for us to grow. Are there painless means? 

Not long ago, when I asked in my prayer. Sulking in tears, “Lord please don’t be far from me.” 

I asked God why things go wrong for good people, like they’re being tested the more. Why is it that after hurting us, they can continue to live a good life, why they can get away with their evil ways…

In agony I look at them, as they continue to deceive more unsuspecting preys with their ill intentions and greed.

These people fool us with scheming ways. Faces in misleading masks, gifting us with their exaggerated generosity that’s actually a strategy to lure our innocence.

I opened my bible app and here’s what He said;

1 Lord, you have seen what is in my heart. You know all about me.
2 You know when I sit down and when I get up. You know what I’m thinking even though you are far away.
3 You know when I go out to work and when I come back home. You know exactly how I live.
4 Lord, even before I speak a word, you know all about it.
5 You are all around me. You are behind me and in front of me. You hold me in your power.6 I’m amazed at how well you know me.
Psalm 139 🙏

I think this sums up everything. 

God answered, this verse was His reply. He knows and sees right through us. Relieved, I know that God will never be misled. He hears the righteous and forsaken.

I believe in Him. 

Bad things happen, but God is working for the good of those who love Him.

Romans 8:28

Let us not be bitter in wondering why good people are being examined and tested in endless ordeals.

God sees everything. And He knows each one of us.

  • (1) When Bad Things Happen to Good People: Harold S. Kushner
  • (2) Problem with Pain: C.S. Lewis
  • Bible NIV
Posted in prayer

Prayer to Keep Going

Prayer to Keep Going. 

Dear Father, when the pressure mounts and the troubles of this world begin to close in, give me the grace to return to You.

All I need is your loving mercy.

Never leave me Lord…

Even I don’t feel You there, at least let me understand that you are there.

Give me strength and fight a good fight.

Let your grace allow me to believe in the only one that gives me Truth and Clarity despite the pain and struggle.

And if it be your will, fill my heart and soul with the overwhelming Joy that only your Spirit gives.

For your are my hope, my strength and my refuge.

In Jesus’ name.
Amen

Posted in motivational, quotes

C.S. Lewis quotable quotes

From the man behind Chronicles of Narnia – C. S. Lewis, a compilation of my favorite quotes.

Read and be inspired…

To love is to be vulnerable.

 

Miracles are retelling in small letters of the very same story which is written across the whole world in letters too large for some of us to see.

 

We would mind Humiliation less if we were humbler.

 

Children are not a distraction from more important work, they are the most important work.

 

It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it.

 

 

integrity is doing the right thing even when no one is watching.

 

There are far better things ahead than any we leave behind.

 

What draws people to be friends is that they see the same truth, they share it.

 

 

We are what we believe we are.

 

You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.

 

 

Courage, Dear Heart.

 

Much love,
Mitch