Someone who is bitter is anger and unhappy because they cannot forget bad things that happened in the past;
– Cambridge Dictionary
What does it mean to be a Bitter Person?
Bitter people have two core emotions ~ anger and unhappiness. They have a lot of drama and excuses in their lives. They have a hard time seeing the positive in every situation. Resentment is the closest emotional construct to bitterness according to experts. They harbor deep-seated resentment and carry negative emotions. They have an endless sense of dissatisfaction and an inability to let go and move on from past grievances.
According to Psychology Today, the root of bitterness is “hurt” and “emotional pain”, having complex emotions that also include disappointment.
A bitter person is often angry, sad and disappointed. They seem to be preoccupied with too much negative feelings. And greatly affects people around them. They can cause harm and even destroy relationships.
You may be dealing with someone bitter in your life, knowledge and understanding is the key to handling them.
Here are the characteristics of bitter people;
- Bitter people are constantly jealous and envious – they are not happy and contented with their lives. They want what you have and constantly compare themselves with other people.
- Bitter people use drama to get attention and sympathy – They often find themselves bored and lonely so they create dramatic situations to get sympathy and attention.
- Bitter people focus on the negative – they are often judgemental and talk about the faults of others. They live in negativity and don’t like you to be happy.
- Bitter people are narcissistic – we have a separate post on this topic, the kind of people that are selfish and detached.
- Bitter people hold grudges – they hold grudges and they can’t let go of something for a long time. Feeding on anger and hatred.
No matter how much you want to help this person, you have to understand that for them they don’t really want your help. If these people were open to advice, they wouldn’t be so miserable in the first place.
There’s still something you can do about it if you want to help them though. Find the courage to sit down and talk to them about their bitterness and how they can improve themselves.
It is possible to be bitter and not be aware of it, so if you care for that person tell them, pray for them…
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